Since the 2015 Emmy Awards aired, I’ve read so many posts on why it’s important to have a ‘Taraji” on your friend list. The sisterhood, support, solidarity, and genuine joy that Taraji displayed during the award show to Regina King and Viola Davis had me in awe. It was such a beautiful thing to see her support them and be so happy and proud for them! I keep replaying those moments in my head, and while it’s awesome to have a friend like that, I’ve recommitted to being my own Taraji.
As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.
Do it for self – I saw the above quote on tumblr and it simply reiterated what I’ve been thinking for many weeks now. As I journey through new endeavors, successes, and failures I’ve been expecting my “team” to share my joy and pain. When I realized they weren’t, I took a step back to consider who I’m really doing things for. It has to be for me or it’ll never be enough and I’ll never feel satisified.
Have your moment – One of the things that really stood out to me was when Regina got on stage, Taraji hugged her so tight then said “Go. Have your moment, have your moment.” That resonated with me because whether it’s an up or a down I’m reminded to allow myself to have the moments that are mine. Eventually I’ll have a family and moments that are all about me will be few and far between, so in this stage of life I’m embracing all my moments.
I appreciate all the Taraji’s on my team but when the music dies down and everybody goes home, it’s important to be that for myself. I appreciate having an example in her and while I’m doing it for me, I’m also making an effort to do it for my girls too.
Do you have a Taraji on your team? How does she/he help you shine? Let’s chat in the comments below!